The Invaders

When monogamy is the norm, self-identifying as outside of the norm requires a certain understanding that “normal” events will not be a part of my life. For example, I have had to accept that I will never be proposed to in the traditional sense. Sure, I might have a commitment ceremony, but I will not . . . → Read More: The Invaders

The Difference (As I See It Right Now)

Safety is not the correct word. Maybe security? Maybe it is simply comfort…although that does not seem to have the correct connotation. The word I am trying to get at is the main difference I feel right now in my relationships versus previous monogamous relationships that I have had. But I can’t seem to find . . . → Read More: The Difference (As I See It Right Now)

How Monogamy is like Religion

To be monogamous is a choice, but often people do not realize that they have any other option than monogamy. We are programmed to believe that we are intended to be monogamous in our relationships, and to deviate from monogamy somehow strips us of our civilized nature—we become like animals.

I call bullshit.

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The Price of Stagnancy

I like people who show excitement about their lives—maybe because my emotions are written on my face, and I like it when I can tell what other people are feeling too. My friend Paul is one of those people that embraces his happiness and shows the world. You can just feel the goodness when you . . . → Read More: The Price of Stagnancy

Monogamists are Romantics

“All the romantic imagery of ‘true love’ that has since helped to idealize marriage in contemporary society can’t change the fact that marriage is essentially a property relationship.” -Sharon Smith

Monogamists are Romantics

Marriage is an achievement: a state that people aspire to attain, and often they feel inadequate if they do not conquer the . . . → Read More: Monogamists are Romantics

Wardrobe Malfunction

A few years ago, when Janet Jackson flashed her pasty-adorned breast, Janet drew the attention of the masses. The event was termed a scandal, and according to Wikipedia, the incident spurred over 5,000 stories in major US publications, newspapers, and TV/radio broadcasts. The football-watching world was in an uproar because of the tit-interruption of the . . . → Read More: Wardrobe Malfunction