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The Invaders

When monogamy is the norm, self-identifying as outside of the norm requires a certain understanding that “normal” events will not be a part of my life. For example, I have had to accept that I will never be proposed to in the traditional sense. Sure, I might have a commitment ceremony, but I will not . . . → Read More: The Invaders

Climax, Falling Action, Divorce.

A fresh-out-of-the-relational gate teenager once asked, “But what is the point of an open relationship?” Even though it wasn’t asked to me directly (I read it on someone’s Facebook wall), the question has been haunting me.

My initial campaign to answer this question started with an analysis of the monogamous “point.” There are a . . . → Read More: Climax, Falling Action, Divorce.

Conditioning and Masturbation

As much as I hate to admit it, I can be conditioned. The idea that gets me through my arduous hate of my own conditioning is that I have faith that I can also be unconditioned (for the technical out there, “unconditioned” is like negative reinforcement). In order to be unconditioned, however, I have come . . . → Read More: Conditioning and Masturbation

The Scarlet Bonobo: A Primate/Human Comparison

The Sex Museum in New York City has an air of sincere, yet haughty, confidence about its subject matter—much like any other museum you will walk into. Yet it is hard to look at the contents with a strictly educational lens, so the experience winds of being a mockery of the museum environment standard.

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“A She-Savior” by Mikhail Armalinsky

An article in defense of the prostitute. One of my favorite lines: “Well, I would compare prostitution to a palace. If it wasn’t there, all you would see were the gray shacks of monogamy.”

http://www.mipco.com/english/SheSavior.html

The Difference (As I See It Right Now)

Safety is not the correct word. Maybe security? Maybe it is simply comfort…although that does not seem to have the correct connotation. The word I am trying to get at is the main difference I feel right now in my relationships versus previous monogamous relationships that I have had. But I can’t seem to find . . . → Read More: The Difference (As I See It Right Now)

How Monogamy is like Religion

To be monogamous is a choice, but often people do not realize that they have any other option than monogamy. We are programmed to believe that we are intended to be monogamous in our relationships, and to deviate from monogamy somehow strips us of our civilized nature—we become like animals.

I call bullshit.

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Marriage. Overthrown.

We don’t intend to remain single. For the general population, being single is just a phase, a stage of life to move out of into adulthood, and ultimately, marriage. And for good reason: married workers can receive up to 25 percent more pay than unmarried individuals as a result of health and pension opportunities. Insurance . . . → Read More: Marriage. Overthrown.

V Day

On behalf of V Day:

Embrace Your Inner Girl

The Price of Stagnancy

I like people who show excitement about their lives—maybe because my emotions are written on my face, and I like it when I can tell what other people are feeling too. My friend Paul is one of those people that embraces his happiness and shows the world. You can just feel the goodness when you . . . → Read More: The Price of Stagnancy

I have always had a crush on Jay Gatsby. And I have always latently blamed the late, Great Gatsby for my initial campaign against traditional marriage. You see, when I was a fifteen-year-old high school English student, I couldn't help but advocate for Gatsby's cause and create my first critique on the institution of marital bliss.

Gatsby and Daisy were the titular characters of my paper defining the basis of my critique on marriage—that vows allow for a general stagnancy due to the lack of necessary relational reassessment. Instead of marriage, I posed that committed relationships should be contractual, spelling out expectations, and the general unspoken entitlements of monogamy would not be presumed. The contract would be subject to re-evaluation on an annual basis, and could be dissolved according to the agreed upon "relational separation" clause. Granted this rationale has grown over the years, but the main point remains intact...Read More!

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